“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.”
-Dr. Maya Angelou
I observed a 6-month-old child struggle to get a toy that was out of his reach. He kept moving and turning to get to the toy. It would get in his reach and he would knock it away a little. He then began to get really frustrated. I was tempted to get it for him, but I decided to see how far this would go. He then began to cry. In his tears, he reached and got his prize. He soon forgot about his struggle and played happily with his toy.
This made me think of the butterfly lesson that most of us are familiar with. A man saw a butterfly struggling to get out of his cocoon. He decided to help and cut the cocoon open to allow the butterfly to get out without the struggle. The butterfly did not live to its full potential and walked around cripple for the rest of his life.
As adults, it’s hard to see a child struggle with different things in their life. You want to immediately step in and solve all their problems. It’s hard to see them frustrated or upset. We must allow children to go through struggles so they can grow into a beautiful person. We can hinder children from reaching their full potential by not allowing them to solve their own problems.
An infant will never learn to walk if you don’t allow them to fall. A toddler will never learn how to complete a puzzle if we stepped in as soon as a child begins to struggle. A child will never learn how to work with people if we don’t allow a child to solve problems with their friends.
We are here as guides to help children grow. Sometimes we should allow them to help solve some things on their own. We can distinguish and know when we must step in and guide them in situations that will come against them in life.
“Where there is no struggle there is no strength.”